Expanding Your Identity – What Makes You, You?

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How do you define yourself? How do others define you? Do these match or they different?

One of the things I struggled with in the past, is the label of tennis player. Yes, I achieved a lot as an athlete, however when I finished playing the sport, who was I then?

People were still asking me about tennis and as I was no longer playing, I didn’t know what to say as who I was as a tennis player appeared to be much more exciting to them compared to who I was becoming post tennis (yes that is my interpretation).

A few years ago I came across the work by Robert Dilts on NeuroLogical Levels – this made so much sense to me and helped me expand my own identity and make conscious changes in my own life. Dilts’ Neurological Levels is based on Gregory Bateson’s Logical Levels of Learning.

Expanding Your Identity – What Makes You, You?

So what makes you, you? Here is a visual based on the NeuroLogical Levels by Robert Dilts.

As you can see by the above image, human beings are complex and are made up of a variety of elements – an identity is made values and beliefs, and then each value and belief relates to different capabilities, those capabilities relate to behaviours within environmental conditions. Some of these elements are internal and some are external, so is it any wonder expanding your identity can take time!

Over to You…

Now that you have read about what makes you, you, what are you going to do with this information in order to BE who you are born to BE? If you are ready to make a change in your life and create a life you love, it would be wise to align all of the NeuroLogical Levels.

Remember – you can choose to be at cause or effect in relation to change – the decision is yours!

Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Start living and creating your dreams today. Start making empowering choices and doing what brings you joy. Remember, it’s up to you as you are the Sovereign of your own life.

If you are ready to reclaim your courage and take the next step towards freedom and opening your heartwhy not join our Toolkit?

Reference –

Dilts, R. (2003). From Coach to Awakener. California, U.S.A: Dilts Strategy Group.

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