Jane's Journal
The River of Integration – Discovering Flow & Harmony Between the Chaos & Rigidity
What is the River of Integration? The River of Integration is a metaphor coined by Daniel Siegel in his book Mindsight. It is used to describe a human being that is thriving, healthy and well. When the river (and human being) is integrated, healthy and flowing, it is – On either side of the river are…
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Shifting from Resistance to Acceptance
One of the challenges on the adventure of whole-heartedness is shifting from resistance to acceptance, especially in relation to emotions. Learning to realise that each morning when we wake up is a Guest House. Poem: The Guest House by Jellaludin Rumi “This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression,…
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Starting to Shift from the Drama Triangle to the Winner’s Triangle
A few years ago when I was studying, I came across the drama triangle. It made a lot of sense to me at the time in relation to the different scripts we can play out in our relationships. So, What is the Karpman Drama Triangle? The Karpman Drama Triangle is also known as the rescue triangle. It defines…
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The Three Basic Communication Styles
Effective communication relies on a high degree of self-awareness. By developing awareness and understanding your own communication style can help to build quality relationships with other people and handle conflict. Let’s have a look at the three basic communication styles. The Three Basic Communication Styles The three basic communication styles are: 1. Aggressive Communication Following…
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Not Happy With Your Body? A Diet Is NOT the Answer!
This post was inspired after another conversation with a friend. They shared with me that they are not happy with their body and need to start another diet. Interestingly enough, they had only got off another diet a few months ago! It saddens me to see and hear the number of people who are not…
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What is Self-Soothing?
One of the aspects I work with clients is supporting them to develop the skills to look after themselves. It is a crucial skill for well-being and to living whole-heartedly. Why? Because life is challenging (although some people don’t acknowledge that). There are ups and downs. So, having the ability to take care of yourself and nurture…
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Time to Face What Isn’t Working With Your Current Money Situation
You know that something isn’t right, however not sure what it is. As you continue on the hamster wheel of life, however sooner or later you start to realise that avoidance is not a great coping strategy. You start to realise that in order to live a whole-hearted life and fulfil your purpose, you need…
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What is the Difference Between Gratitude and Appreciation?
Today I am going to talk about gratitude and appreciation. These two skills have an impact on wellbeing and support us in leading a whole-hearted life. Subsequently, in this post I will discuss – Let’s get started! What is Gratitude? Grat•i•tude (noun):The state of being grateful; a feeling of thankfulness or appreciation. Some of the definitions of…
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Investing Time to Reflect and Honour the Masks
A few months ago, I went back to the Australian Open for the first time in many years. I wrote about it briefly here. Whilst I was at the tennis, I attended an event. It was an interesting experience as I was interviewed (which I did not know was going to happen). Interestingly enough, emotions…
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