Untangling Stressful Habits – Blame

If you have been in my world for a while, you will know that I am passionate about habits and untangling unhelpful habits to live a fulfilling and whole-hearted life as a well-being. So I am writing a series to shed some light on some stressful habits that have come back in to my awareness recently.

Before I start sharing about stressful habits, let’s have a look at what stressful habits are.

What Are Stressful Habits?

Basically – habits can be useful or not so useful, helpful or not so helpful, stress inducing or not. Sometimes we are conscious of our habit/s (i.e. often chosen and intentional) or the habit/s can sit within our blind spots or the unknown.

When I refer to stressful habits, I am referring to habits that are impacting our overall life, business or well-being. They could be adding extra stress, suffering or draining life force energy in our lives. The stressful habits could be showing up in one or a variety of areas within our lives (i.e. physical, emotional, mental, financial, environmental or social).

In order to start to untangle from stressful habits, we need to develop self-awareness, so we can be more responsible and take ownership of our own life. Today I wanted to introduce blame.

Stressful Habit: Blame

Now please don’t get me misunderstand me here, I know many people whom have had really challenging situations go on in their life (I get that very deeply) and yes it could be quite easy to play the blame game. However, I believe we are here to learn or remember what we need to and master life. Just so we are on the same page about blame, some definitions include –

• “to say or think that someone or something did something wrong or is responsible for something bad happening” ~ Cambridge Dictionary,
• “The state of being responsible for a fault or error; culpability. ~ The Free Dictionary,
• “to think or say that someone or something is responsible for something bad” ~ Oxford Learner’s Dictionary,
• “responsibility for doing something badly or wrongly; saying that somebody is responsible for something” ~ Oxford Learn’s Dictionary, and
• can relate to the statement “I can’t do…… because of you / this / it”.

How would you define blame? Feel free to share below.

Where Does Blame Show Up?

Blame can show up in many places within our lives. For example blame can show up –

• within ourself – blaming ourself for something we didn’t do or a choice we didn’t make,
• around our capabilities or something about ourselves – for example our age – e.g. “I am too old to do something“,
• in our relationships – maybe we think it can be easier to blame than take responsibility?

Don’t worry, I imagine most of us have blamed something at some stage throughout our lives until we develop self-awareness, so BE self-compassionate 🙂

Over to You…

Now you have this awareness, what is your next step? Feel free to share any insights on blame or a reflection below. Sometimes change can take a while, so be patient and of course self-compassionate. Also – remember when blame is consciously understood it supports our adventure of wholeness and heartful living.

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